I remember the day when I first realized that we can’t expect god to do all the work. It was a Sunday morning, and I was sitting in church listening to our pastor speak about faith. He said something that really stuck with me- “The only way you’re going to find true peace is if you have enough faith to pursue your dreams.” This message resonated deep inside of me. And so began my search for strength, as I would try each day for 5 new habits which would help give me the courage necessary to keep following after my dreams.
A few weeks ago, I was sitting in the back of a coffee shop with my laptop and trying to brainstorm blog post ideas. I felt like it had been such an exhausting week- there were so many things that I wanted to say but not enough time or energy left over at the end of the day to put them into words. So instead of giving up on this idea for a blog post altogether, my mind wandered off onto all these other topics: what kind of habits do you need in order to have strength? What does courage look like when we get down inside ourselves? How can we find faith without relying solely on God’s power alone?
I couldn’t come up with anything good- just lots and lots of questions. a little bit of a mess.
I have known for a while now that I need to create new habits in my life- ones that will give me the strength to keep following after my dreams even when it feels like all is weathered and beaten down inside myself, but also knowing what those habits are has been another story altogether.
As soon as I let go of this idea for today’s blog post and started thinking about how tired I was from not taking time out for self-care last night, then took on some more work projects at home without getting anything done there either because I felt guilty every time something came up during the day; then realized that coffee had just hit its limit with me yesterday morning–all these things were weighing me down, and I still had that one more thing to do before the day was over.
I started thinking about what it would be like if I were to take on a new habit for today–not just haphazardly picking up something off of Pinterest or some other blog but intentionally finding out how this might work with my personality type; knowing that not all habits are created equal in who they appeal to so we have to find the ones we feel most comfortable doing from the start.
For me, I need self-care time–maybe an hour each night where I can decompress after being around people when possible (even though sometimes those things don’t go as planned) and then make myself dinner. If there’s any leftovers, I might save them for the next day and have breakfast as lunch.
I know that’s not a perfect habit to follow so maybe it can be one of those things we do when we need some guidance; like prayer or meditation–something we turn to in times of stress but still something that will take practice before you feel completely comfortable with it.
I think this is a great place to start because now I am practicing self-care which means less worrying about being able to give 100% all the time.
The other thing I want people who read this blog post (and my future posts) are looking for strength from within themselves rather than relying on someone else giving them their faith back every step of the way.”
“There is no such thing as an easy road, there is only life and the choices you make,” he says while sitting at his desk. “I have learned through adversity how difficult taking up challenges truly are. It takes grit and determination.”
I am a writer, and I have always wanted to write. More importantly, though, I was afraid of what other people would think when they read my writing or saw me wearing the clothes that looked like someone who wrote for a living–or had anything in their house related to it.
My father told me once that we can’t expect god to do all the work for us; we need to find strength from within ourselves sometimes too.”There is no such thing as an easy road,” he said while sitting at his desk with one hand on top of another resting against his chin. “There’s only life and the choices you make.”
“And I’ve learned through adversity how difficult taking up challenges truly are. It takes determination.”
“So how do we find that strength?” my father said, “We practice.” We put one foot in front of the other and walk, we try to learn from our mistakes, and we keep pushing ourselves because there is so much more out there for us than where we are. This discussion with my father was the first time I realized it’s not okay to be afraid of what others think when they see me wearing clothes associated with writers or hear about me pursuing my writing dreams. It has also been a catalyst for change—I have found ways to stay motivated without being held back by fear. I am reminded always now that this is why God gave us free will: so we could